New Year's resolutions have a failure rate above 90%. It's because resolutions rely entirely on motivation — which will be gone by February — and willpower — which is a finite resource.
The Alternative: Standards
A standard is not what you want — it's the minimum acceptable version of who you are. You don't 'try' to meet your standards. You meet them because not meeting them isn't consistent with your identity.
Building Standards That Stick
Choose three to five areas of life that most need elevation. For each, define the minimum acceptable standard explicitly — not the goal, but the floor. Attach the standard to identity: 'I am a man who...' Build the architecture that makes this standard easy to maintain.
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Why do most New Year resolutions fail by February?
Because they are built on motivation and vague intentions instead of specific standards and systems that do not depend on how you feel that day.
What should I focus on instead of a long list of resolutions?
Pick one or two identity-level standards to raise, rather than a long list of goals. Depth beats breadth when it comes to actually following through.